― and No One Has Their Shit Together!
When I was young, (I mean younger then I’m now…) I looked at my parents and my teachers and thought that they have figured it all out. They had some secret to life that I will one day come to learn. As they said:
"You’ll understand when you’re older."
We all probably thought that there was a certain age that you turn where suddenly things just make sense and you have all the knowledge to make the right choices.
Then you grow up and realize that there’s no such thing as an adult.
“Adults are just obsolete children and the hell with them.”
― Dr. Seuss
You can do "adult things" like pay bills, have a job, buy a house, get married, have kids, do all the things that you watched your parents do, but if you are waiting for that moment where you stop making mistakes and completely have your shit together, you’re going to be waiting forever.
I used to look at "grown-up married couples" and think that they must have all the secrets of having a happy, healthy relationship figured out. I thought that getting older meant you just learn how to do those things. Then you grow up and see your friends getting married, having 1.34 kids, a house, a beige Volvo and a golden retriever, and then they reveal to you that they don’t know what they’re doing. They don't have their Shit together, and they don't know which direction their lives are going.
We are all just faking it, so that everyone else thinks we know what the hell we're doing.
Everyone has something in their lives that isn’t perfect and we all screw up. That doesn’t mean that you’re doing life wrong, because I assure you that no one’s doing it exactly right.
So; maybe that’s what it means to call yourself an "adult". Admitting that you have no idea what you’re talking about and that you’re just figuring it out as you go.
So; here’s to all you "adults" out there faking it like me, know that; We’re fucking up Together.
But hopefully; we learn from our mistakes and don't do the same ones twice.